A Post-Ex would like to see a less deceptive and abusive form of Scientology, but he realizes that people should remain free to practice any religion they want – even abusive ones. As long as Scientology deception and abuse is legal, a Post-Ex realizes that Scientologists have a right to it.
Warning the public is important, but a Post-Ex realizes that exaggerating the abuse in Scn, or taking it out of context to make Scn seem more dangerous, creates an hysteria around Scientology which has never ended Scn abuse, or even slowed it down. He realizes that he only harms himself and his own mental stability by engaging in these kinds of hysterically negative distortions, and he has stopped doing that to himself.
A Post-Ex seeks to accept and to integrate his experiences: who he was as a Scientologist, with who he was an Ex/Anti, and with who he is now. He has mined all the value out of his experiences in both Scientology and Anti-Scientology, the lessons he has learned from each, and he has moved on down the road with all his valuables in tow.
A Post-Ex realizes that any extreme view (whether all good or all bad) on Scientology is too false to be sustainable. A Post Ex is comfortable with the good he got out of Scientology and realizes the person he was when he was a Scientologist is not the person he is today. He had different problems back then for which Scientology was the solution, and he’s good with that. He is no longer bitter or vindictive about any betrayals or abuses he once thought Scientology committed on him, whether real or imagined.
A Post-Ex has seen through the hysteria of the concepts of “mind control” and “Brainwashing”. He realizes that his own decisions in Scientology might have been made under some form of deception and even under some social coercion, but in the end, he considers that his own decisions were ultimately his own. Any decisions he made as a Scientologist, he made for his own reasons, and he kept making them every day because they were working for him in some way, until they weren’t. And then when his decisions quit working for him, and only then, did he finally decide to leave.
A Post-Ex has found the ways that his decisions to become a Scientologist, and to stay one, were helpful to him. He has also found the ways that becoming an Ex, and even an Anti, were helpful to him, too. And he has won his own self-acceptance as a prize for that.
A Post-Ex has integrated the arguments, and “truths”, he made as a Scientologist with the arguments, and “truths”, he made as an Ex/Anti-Scientologist. He has seen the disconnects and the contradictions there, and repaired them. He no longer walks around with an opposite self inside him, with which he is at war.
A Post-Ex has graduated from Scientology and from Ex/Anti Scientology and has continued on his own spiritual path, whether that path is religious, spiritual, or neither.
A Post-Ex is an integrated whole.