1440342714500264881If you were not abused in Scientology, and you say so in the various social media platforms on the Internet, then you can be accused of being heartless to those who were. A common way to avoid that is to forget your own viewpoint and to take up other peoples’ problems of abuse as your own, and to spend years championing “justice” for someone else’s suffering.

If you were abused in Scientology, and you talk about the abuse you suffered on internet social media, you usually have to repeat yourself, over and over, so people understand your background. Yet repeating your own stories of abuse over and over for years never allows you to get over it.

In fact, the Internet can become one big dirty needle drill, where whatever individual viewpoint you express, no matter how carefully you craft your message, is misunderstood, or twisted, or thrown back at you with contempt. And if your thoughts are TOO individual, and they cross some clique’s party line, they can become a source of ridicule and all-out cyber-bullying because your own unique and individual viewpoint threatens some group’s cause, or some individual’s ego, or some blogger’s income through pledgie buttons and t-shirt sales.

The most insidious aspect of trying to heal from abuse on the Internet is having to make Scientology abuse entirely unique and vastly more horrible than any other kind of abuse that anyone else has suffered anywhere. Because law enforcement in the US has done nothing about Scientology abuse, and is not likely too, either, then whipping up huge numbers of people to decry that abuse was a strategy to get law enforcement to act. This strategy distorts Scientology abuse for those who have been abused, and even for those who have suffered little or no abuse in Scientology.

Hanging out too long in Post-Scientology social media creates a distorted view of Scientology abuse. Yes, disconnection occurs. And it is horrible. But so does divorce, infidelity, and betrayals of all kinds. Human beings suffer abuse of all kinds all over the world. And part of healing from that abuse – and putting and keeping it behind you – is done through putting the abuse you suffered in perspective, and keeping it in perspective every time you are reminded of it.

For these reasons, and many more, healing from abuse in Scientology is not something best accomplished on Internet social media such as message boards and blog commenting communities.

Healing from any abuse is a deeply intimate and uniquely personal activity.

It is not a social one.

Read this:

“…”If you are a victim who comes forward and resolution through the court provides a conviction, it will not undo what happened to you. You will still have to heal. If you come forward and there is insufficient evidence for a conviction, that is a reality you will have to face, and you can find a way to begin recovering in spite of that. If you are given the choice to not prosecute and spare yourself the trauma of a trial, highly publicized or not, you can make your choice, go forward with your life, and begin to heal. If you never come forward to the authorities, tell no one or only someone close to you, you can begin to recover and overcome what has happened to you. Under any of these circumstances, there will always be those who doubt you and nothing will erase what has happened to you. That does not have to stop you from healing.’

“The most important thing is to try to begin recovering from within. I don’t think you can heal from outside events happening. Waiting for the actions of others— be it the courts, your family, the opinions of those you care about, or the words of strangers—places you in a situation that you cannot control. And despite what was done to you, you do still have control.”

The Girl, Samantha Gelmer

Because of its inherent peer pressure and even cyber-bullying, hanging out too long on Post-Scientology Internet social media can cause you to give up control over your own mind, and your own view of your own life. Only when you are allowed to retain your own view of your own life can you ever hope to keep any abuse you suffered in Scientology in its proper perspective – your own perspective.

And to heal from it for good.

The Internet is great for learning about the things you were deceived about in Scientology. Use the Internet to learn what you need to learn.

Then move away from anything having to do with Scientology – as far away as you possibly can.